Thursday, September 23, 2010

Fitness or Social???

I was not athletic as a kid.  In fact, I was quite a clutz.  I didn't play on any sports teams.  So I would never have imagined my life so fitness-focused now.  But what I'm wondering is when my life turned the corner from lunch dates to running dates, from sleeping in to early rising, from meeting people at a park to meeting people at races.  When did I start having relationships based on meetings at the gym and at runs and races?  And I'm not talking about just surface-y casual meetings.  I meet up with some of my favorite people while exercising.  It may have started when Amie, Sarah, and I would meet on the treadmills at least once a week, or when I started attending my friend, Elaine's, bodyworks class and then driving to races with her.  And now, my Thursday running dates with Jenn and Robin along with my Tuesday running dates with Pat.  And then my whole friendship with Emily developed on the treadmill at LA Fitness (our kindergarteners are in class together)... and now we have it on the plan to meet up there three times next week. 

Not only am I developing relationships, but I am creating accountability.  When people know I am supposed to be there, I better get up and get there.  I had to cancel on Emily twice this week (once because I thought Paige might be sick - turned into nothing, and once because another friend really needed my help with something), and I felt awful about it... like I was letting someone else down.  And this weekend I'll be meeting a new friend.  We connected through this blog (and coincidentally have a couple of mutual friends as well).  We'll be running together with my friend, Jenn.  Should be a blast.

I've had people comment before on the blog wishing he/she had someone to go on a run with or to the gym.  I spent a lot, a lot of time going alone, running alone.  And even when you meet another runner - are they the same pace?  do they even like to run with other people?  do they prefer music or conversation?  (Of course, I've talked a few people into converting from music to conversation.  ;-)  )  Not to mention if they are even free or willing to run at the same times as you.  My outdoor runs on Tuesdays and Thursday are at 5am so we can all get home before our husbands have to head to work.  Not just anyone will get up at 4:30 so they can meet-up at 5am.  My runs with Emily are at 8am, right after we both drop our kids at school, and they are at the gym, where I can have care for Paige.  Long runs, I'm more often alone, although occassionally someone will come with me.  I have to play those by ear though and plan around my race schedule, and Peter's tennis schedule.

Anyhow, all this babbling to say that I thank God everyday that He has put people in my life that keep me going, keep me motivated, keep me accountable, and keep running enjoyable.  Some of my running dates are therapeutic (even this morning when I wimped out at mile 6 and had to walk the last mile).

(Shirt to the left is from One More Mile, and can be found HERE.)

7 comments:

Pretty Things said...

I wish I had someone to go to the gym with now. I used to, years ago, and it didn't matter that we were doing different things, we'd still be able to walk by the tread mill or the bench press and chat a sec. And knowing we had that accountability -- you're right, it made a difference.

Jenn said...

You are too funny! I am still trying to figure out how YOU talked me into starting running ;-) And the fact that you can handle me at 5am is a huge bonus, I mean that is before I have even had my mandatory coffee for the day ;-) But really, you are great at motivating people to run, even crazy long distance like 13.1 miles, but not good enough to talk me into doing 26.2 miles.

Amber said...

Great post! Community is one of my favorite things about running!

Jen said...

I am usually a solo runner - pretty much because most of my friends here in NJ are not into running or it would be way too much work to coordinate schedules. However, my LA friends all run together - along the beach in Santa Monica! I was pleasantly invited to do a 3.5 mile run with the gang last Tuesday when I was on the west coast for business and there's something to be said about going as a group. Now most of us are at all different levels - one was so fast she could've lapped me and one opted to walk - but still there was something nice about meeting up and going together... The sunset over the ocean didn't hurt motivation either ;)

I do find blogging and FB'ing about my running helps to keep it social on a whole 'nother level. If it wasn't for the blog and supportive friends - I'm not sure if I'd get through the times where my motivation was at its highest.

PS: love the TSHIRT!

Hotlegs Runner said...

Like I always say, the pavement is my therapist. =)

Hi! New follower here. Hope we can exchange links. Come stop by some time =)

p.s. I like your header =)

FruitFly said...

One More Mile has such cute things to buy!
Next month is my 10th race. So far I've only done one with a friend, but that was the Great Urban Race, so we had teams. At one race, while walking around lost trying to find registration, I talked to a stranger (Stranger Danger!) to see if he knew where to go. That was May 2. We are still friends and talk quite often to this day. Plus he's totally hot, so that is a bonus! ;)
But as far as running goes, I'm still a solo runner. It works well for me, although I'm curious what a running buddy would be like. Maybe I'd prefer it, I don't know!
~RR

Lesley @ racingitoff.com said...

Ronda - While I train with several people, I rarely race with anyone (either than driving there). Racing with someone is new to me... I kind of like it! The thing about racing with someone is inherently one of you is going to be slower... it's about whether the faster person is interested in pacing with you or trying to push themselves. Running is so unpredictable.